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Have you ever intended to have a conversation, but just couldn’t find the right time? What if the “right time” is actually the wrong time to look for?
In today’s flashback, I talk about the difference between the “right time” and the “necessary time”. And it’s a principle I return to all the time.
Take the time today to click over and read the post “Don’t Hide from Hard Conversations.” I think it will be encouraging and challenging.
Some of my favorite lessons in leadership come from on the job experience and evaluation. A few years ago, while on a trip, I waged a battle in my head, and wrote about my learning from it. Today, we are stepping back to that lesson. Here’s a glimpse:
Our trip is one we have developed, so I wrote out my own schedule. Because I’m the only person who knows the schedule, I’m the only one who knows when we need to leave or stay, or what comes next.
This is okay, as long as I am okay with no one sticking to my schedule. And how could they know the schedule, if I haven’t shown them?
Click here to check out the post Communicate Expectations.
I have a post it note on my computer monitor in my office that says: Not having THAT conversation is selfish.
I wrestle with this constantly. I dread difficult conversations. That’s why today’s flashback is a reminder for me as much as for you to not hide from hard conversations.
Here’s a glimpse:
The “right time” and the “necessary time” are two contrasting opportunities. The “right time” is much more of a gamble. I have a tendency to justify waiting by saying I am waiting for the right time. The right time, however, comes before the necessary time.
I find it fascinating how much things change over time, yet how much they stay the same. I’m in a season now where today’s flashback is being put through the fire, and I’m growing so much through it. Here’s a glimpse, or you can go ahead and read it here. Enjoy!
There are downsides to thinking about things 90% of the time–you actually only act on what you’re thinking 10%. That leads to plenty of mental development, but very little real life occurrence.
That’s where the principle for today’s post came into my life. I don’t know if you’re wired like me, but I think there is a little truth in what I’m about to say. I’ve made this my new mantra, especially when there’s something I would much rather just think about doing than actually doing.
Are you ready? Here it is: Start Somewhere.
I hope you have a great Friday!
This week was a hard one. My father-in-law passed away a year ago Wednesday. We finished the day eating supper around our table and talking about him. Then, for dessert, we had a Milky Way Simply Caramel – one of his favorite candy bars.
So, today, I’m going somber for Flashback Friday. The post I’m sharing is one I wrote where I reflected on his memorial and just part of the lessons I learned from him. I hope you’ll take the time to check it out. Here’s a glimpse:
At the memorial, he wanted an open mic. The morning of the service my wife asked me if I was going to share. Honestly, I had not considered sharing before that point. I thought about it, but really did not know what to say if I were to share.
The people who did share did an incredible job highlighting who he was as a man, father, brother, uncle, and friend. I could not have added anything to the service to make it better.
But after the open mic, it hit me. And since I blog and have a captive audience (you), I hope you will indulge me this morning.
You can click here for the rest. Happy reading!
