You know, for someone who has written 150+ blog posts about leadership, you might think I would learn some of my own stuff along the way.
Last week we took a trip, and one of the biggest tensions on the trip was the realization that I had not clearly communicated expectations.
Years ago, I realized that trips would go smoother if I were able to communicate what I expect from students on a trip, so I typed up a sheet with about 15 bullet points. Most of them were simple (work hard, respect adults, Christ first, etc.). Each trip I pass those expectations out, and we go over them. It’s been a solid approach for a number of years.
Then, last week, I realized something I had left off the list. In fact, it was something I have never considered as part of the communicating expectations part of any trip. The result: pain and anguish.
I would get frustrated and respond to situations poorly because I was frustrated, but because I wanted to show grace, I would relax my guideline. So, basically what was happening was the kids on the trip never knew what to expect. How was I going to react? They couldn’t predict, so they coped in their own way.
The tag line on this site is “helping expand your leadership influence.” If I could challenge you to do one thing, aside from asking the 3 Questions, I would implore you to learn to clearly and specifically communicate expectations.
Leadership does not happen in a vacuum. When I blog, I am not speaking only about self-leadership. Leadership happens when we create movement in a group of people toward a common goal. Leadership happens when we lead others to accomplish something.
But, if the people you are leading do not know what to expect, they will either live in a state of second guessing and fear, or they will go off the rails doing what they want.
Learn to effectively communicate expectations, whether it be behaviorally, situationally, results, or interactions. When you make it clear what you expect, the number of people who line up to follow you will continue to grow.
Nancy Goodwin · May 29, 2018 at 10:24 AM
Thanks for your blog post! It left me wondering – what is your list of bullet point expectations and which one did you leave off? Any chance you would share those?
wes · May 29, 2018 at 10:32 AM
Hey Nancy! Thanks for the comment.
I’d be happy to share those with you. I’ll email you the document, but I’ll go ahead and say the one I left off was phone usage what it should look like.